INTERVIEW
WITH SYLVI
Sylvi, where did you get the idea for writing your first book -
Nanny and I?
I have had rheumatoid arthritis for over 40 years, but a few years ago the
arthritis was really taking its toll. I became sicker and sicker until it was an
effort to even lift a fork to eat. My white blood cells were dangerously low and
I was in and out of the hospital as my body tried to fight the infections. After
talking with my Doctors and the Nurses who came to my home, I knew I was dying.
The thought of how my children and grandchildren would cope with my passing
terrified me and I began to look for ways to prepare them. Although I found many
children's books that dealt with the subject of death, I could find none that
dealt with the impending death or loss of a loved one. Thus was born
Nanny and I. Fortunately, as you can see, I recovered from this most
serious stage of my illness.
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What do you think makes your book unique?
I
have written Nanny and I from my own
experiences. I live with disabilities that limit my movements and make me
dependent on others to meet many of my basic needs, and, like the Nanny in my
books, I experience life in a wheelchair. This unique situation makes it
possible for me to convey realities about being disabled to a child that I'm not
sure would be possible for a healthy writer to even understand. I'm also not
sure people can even imagine what it's like to live with someone who is
disabled. My close relationship with my disabled grandmother gave me insights
and wonderful experiences that I now cherish and that I tried to share with my
readers in the book. In a sense, my writings seem so believable and are unique
because in reality I am both the Nanny and the granddaughter that appears in my
books.
I also think this book is unique for another reason. This may sound silly,
but I feel that this book was a gift. When I sat down to write
Nanny and I, I had no idea how to even begin. I tried various ideas,
but nothing seemed to really work. Eventually I let go and waited. To my
surprise, the words came and spilled out of me. I couldn't write the ideas and
words down fast enough. I have had no formal training in writing children's
books or in illustrating them, but sometimes we let go of our ego long enough to
allow God to speak through us. I'm not smart enough to create this book, but I
believe that we all can do all kinds of incredible things if we open ourselves
and get out of the way.
As for the illustrations, they were another matter. Although I had no formal
training, I had been drawing for years and thought it would be a breeze to
create the pictures. It wasn't that easy, but in a way I think not knowing the
"proper way" of illustrating children's books was an asset. I didn't follow the
"rules" and, because of this fact, people often tell me that they are drawn to
the pictures because they are so unique.
What do you hope that your own grandchildren will get out of the book?
Oh my, there are so many things. After reading about the relationship between
Nanny and her beloved granddaughter, I hope they see that barriers such as age,
disabilities, or even distances don't really exist in love. After reading about
Nanny's faith, I hope they realize that the power of prayer can give one the
courage to face life's tough times with a sense of adventure and even joy. I
could go on and on, but whether it's learning how to create a book for
themselves or learning to have compassion for those less fortunate than
ourselves, I hope my grandchildren will enjoy these books as they grow
academically and spiritually.
What do you hope that other children will get out of the book?
When I began to write the first book in the series -
Nanny and I - one of my main goals was to "show" that a Grandmother
with a wheelchair is just like any other Grandma in every way that really
matters. As time went on, however, and more books with various themes started to
develop, Nanny and her precious granddaughter took over and began to subtly
teach much more. Although each book has its own unique message to impart, a
common thread runs through them all. In each story the love that bonds Nanny and
her granddaughter together, not only makes Nanny's disability totally
unimportant to their relationship, it also plainly demonstrates that love sees
beyond any differences at all. To these two pals being together was the best,
and their age differences, or any other differences for that matter, just
weren't an issue. In fact, their adventures plainly showed just how much they
had in common. Simple pleasures fill their fun filled days, reminding us all
that money doesn't buy what's really important and that those everyday moments
are what we really treasure when all is said and done. Nanny's faith and love of
life taught her granddaughter more than any church sermon ever could, and her
granddaughter's open-heart gladly received it. I hope these books will teach
children to be just as open.
What do you hope that grandparents and parents will get out of the book?
I
believe that Nanny's wisdom and love will bless young and old alike. I also
think that parents and grandparents will be grateful for these books because it
is very difficult to find stimulating books that instill values. It is also
difficult to find books that will gently expose our children to some of the sad
realities of life while simultaneously preserving their innocence. Searching for
such books can be a very time-consuming and difficult task and when a parent
finally does find a book of "substance" it is often dull or preachy.
Grandparents will love the book because it clearly illustrates the importance
of a grandparent's role in the life of a child. The books also bring back
precious memories of time spent with their own parents or grandparents.
Grandparents will appreciate being able to share the heartfelt moments that
these books induce with their grandchildren and will find that
Nanny and I will provoke conversations that might not have been
possible without the help of these books.
What reactions have you had from people who have read the book?
I am getting wonderful reactions! The book has only been out for a few days
and just today a minister from a local church called me. A Hospice nurse had
suggested that he read the book. He was very impressed and wanted my permission
to take pictures. He plans on reading the book to his congregation on Sunday and
wanted to put the pictures on an overhead projector. I've worked on the book for
so long, and sometimes I begin to doubt its worth. I was asked to read it to a
kindergarten class. After reading the book all three teachers cried, which was
just what I needed to rebuild my confidence in my work. I've met so many people
like this minister and these teachers who have been touched and very excited
about the book.
Have you discussed the book with grief counselors? If so, what is their
reaction to it?
Actually, it was a grief counselor who first saw the book and who strongly
encouraged me to publish it after she read it. She was so taken with the book
that she brought it to a conference that she was attending. A few of her fellow
counselors called me to offer their support and to urge me to pursue publishing
it. When I did publish it this councilor wrote a wonderful endorsement for the
book. A condensed version of her comments are in the
Testimonials.
Like Nanny, you are disabled and experience life from a wheelchair. How
do you think this has given you a unique perspective on life?
I always tried to tell my children and grandchildren that life's trials can
make you bitter or better. Being disabled forces you to question what's really
important in life and to find strengths within yourself that you never knew you
had. It's funny, years ago before this disease took away my independence and my
looks, I was too insecure and fearful to even think of walking this path of
writing a book. It would seem that this disease would make me more insecure, but
ironically, it has done the opposite. I wrote a poem years ago that I think says
it all. (Click here for poem.)
Can you tell me a little bit about your service dog?
Sure,
his name is Coyote, but we call him Odie. I got him in April 2002 from a
wonderful organization called
Neads. I was on their waiting list for almost two years but it was worth
the wait. I went down to their facilities and trained for two weeks before
bringing Odie home. He is an incredible help. He picks up whatever I drop and
can't get, he turns on the lights and he can even open the refrigerator. He does
all kinds of amazing things for me, but more important than what he does is the
fact that he has become such a part of our family. He is so loving and I don't
know how we ever lived without him. He's such a character and he makes us laugh
all the time. My second book is about Nanny's adventures with Odie and I'm
really enjoying creating it. In fact, I plan on donating a portion of the
profits that I make from this book to Neads so that other people with
disabilities can also experience the freedom and love that I experience with
Odie.
Some people have remarked on the unique quality of your illustrations.
With such deformity in your hands, how do you go about creating them?
So many people have asked me this question and I'm not really sure. When I go
into a store, the cashier always hands the credit card slip to my husband or my
attendant to sign. When I look at my hands I can understand why they think I
couldn't possibly write with these hands, but the facts are, I can write quite
well. I've seen people who no longer have use of their hands draw with a brush
between their teeth. It seems impossible. I do have help from my husband or
grandson in getting the acrylics and other materials out and ready before I
work. Once I'm situated I enjoy creating so much that I usually work for many
many hours before stopping.
Do you have any favorite artists or illustrators?
I love so many of the picture book illustrators and artists. I love the
messages in Max Lucado's picture book. I also enjoy Mary Engelbreit's fun
illustrations.
Your books have a very wholesome "made in Vermont quality" that almost
seems to hark back to an earlier time when family values were stronger. Is this
deliberate?
Many people tell me this also. I love Vermont and I did want to give my books
a Vermont quality. I also feel that strong family values are so important in
assuring that a child will grow to be a well adjusted and strong adult. Our
generation does not seem to value strong family ties as folks did years ago. I
do feel many people yearn to bring these forgotten values back to their children
and grandchildren. I'm not sure that I consciously decided to present my book
with a feeling from an earlier time, but I am very happy that so many people
feel this quality after reading my book.
Many people have said that your books have a spiritual quality. Is this
important to you?
Yes, it's very important. As we all know, there are an endless amount of
children's books on the shelves of our bookstores and libraries that cover every
subject imaginable. In spite of this fact, parents often say that it is still
sometimes hard to find books and products that really help our children to deal
with the problems that they have to face each day. It was important to me to
create books that will really speak those timeless truths to our children, as
well as to adults, without being preachy. My desire is that the spiritual
quality that runs through Sylables books will help our children cope with
everyday problems that seem so enormous when one is young and just beginning to
experience life. I want them to be books of substance that children will cherish
and will want to pass down to their own children someday.
I
understand that you have many grandchildren. Do they
contribute to your ideas for your books?
Yes, they certainly do!My oldest grandson, Joshua is a good example.
Joshua
just turned 19, but when
he was younger, he loved to push me in my wheelchair whenever we
went somewhere such as shopping. As I'm sure you realize, children often stare
when they see things that are not the norm and children often stare at me and
the wheelchair. One day Joshua proudly said to me, "Nana, have you noticed how
all the children look at me when I'm pushing you? They think I'm lucky to be
pushing you in the wheelchair!" I laughed and said, "Maybe so, Josh. "In the
book Nanny's granddaughter believes the same thing.
What are your next writing projects?
Right now I have finished a book called "Polly, Prim and Prissy". Now,
that I have a bit more time, I plan on starting illustrations for it. I
have also started a line of greeting cards that I am very excited about.
Odie and I are alone now, so we have to find a way to make a living. I am on the
look out for Vermont products to put on my website. Sylables (the name of
my company) will also produce products that will surround the Nanny and I
Series. These products will be valuable tools that will enhance the books and
help to make learning fun and exciting. If anyone has any interest, please call
Sylvi at 802-524-0262 or email me through this website. |